2 OctPsychology Today: Underappreciated? Men’s Tips for the Family Dynamic by Dr. Konstantin Lukin, Ph.D. I speak to a lot of men who, despite feeling that they place significant focus on their family life, feel underappreciated by their partners. The dynamics of any family can be unique and complicated, regardless of work schedule or life circumstances. But there are certain proactive approaches shown to help people re-engage with family and reaffirm the feeling of having a spot in the family dynamic. See things from your partner’s perspective. Perhaps your family fits a more traditional model where you work longer hours and your spouse spends more time at home with the kids. Your spouse may feel the brunt of household responsibilities and feel that you, despite your long hours, come home and feel your day is done in terms of “work. Conversely, you may come home and do your best to spend time with your family, from picking up the kids’ toys to reading the bedtime story, and may love this part of your day, even if it takes an extra push of energy. Getting a read on where each member of a relationship is on a day to day basis can help you work with each other to get the best out of your time at home. Read the Full Article on Psychology Today Author Dr. Konstantin Lukin, Ph.D. Dr. Konstantin Lukin is a psychologist, author, speaker, and researcher specializing in men’s issues, couple’s counseling, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). He is the Director and Co-Founder of the Lukin Center, northern New Jersey’s premiere evidence-based psychotherapy practice. The Lukin Center emphasizes evidence-based treatments such as emotion-focused therapy for couples, and cognitive and dialectical behavioral therapies for children, adolescents, and adults. Since its inception, the Lukin Center has grown to include testing and assessment as well as medication management services. As a therapist, Dr. Lukin focuses on providing support and practical feedback to help clients effectively address personal life challenges. He integrates complementary modalities and techniques – including cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), schema-focused therapy, and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) – to offer a personalized approach tailored to each client. With compassion and understanding, he works with his clients to help them build on their strengths and attain the personal growth to which they are committed. Dr. Lukin has extensive experience in private practice, conducting outpatient therapy with children, adolescents, and adults. He also has extensive clinical and research experience with people of all ages and their families, including those diagnosed as severely and persistently mentally ill, in both inpatient and outpatient settings. He has co-led groups for children, adolescents, and adults diagnosed with OCD in an outpatient setting. He is trained and experienced in administering a variety of psychological test batteries including neuropsychological, cognitive, and personality assessments, and he has conducted diagnostic and intake interviews and prepared evaluation reports. Dr. Lukin is a graduate of the Honors College at SUNY at Stony Brook, and earned his doctorate from Fairleigh Dickinson University.
