What is EFT?

EFT at Lukin Center: Strengthening Connections for Good

Repair and rewire your important relationships for long-term, positive change.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a highly effective method for helping people improve their relationships. EFT helps people understand and address the feelings, patterns and emotions behind negative relationship patterns and cycles. It’s also one of the most-researched and most effective treatments for long-term results.

EFT works more than 80% of the time, no matter the reason for treatment.

At Lukin Center, we know that EFT is an effective method for helping people in all kinds of relationships learn to communicate better. EFT teaches you (and your partner) to respond to emotional situations in a way that brings you closer instead of pushing you apart, so you can heal from past wounds and strengthen your bond going forward.

EFT at a Glance

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy
  • Proven, science-backed therapy
  • Designed to improve communication within relationships
  • Highly effective for long-term positive change
  • Examines feelings and needs behind relationship patterns
  • Used to treat patients of all ages, including children and adolescents
  • Primarily used in couples therapy; also used for family and individual therapy
  • Lukin Center is one of only a few EFT providers in Northern New Jersey
Happy couple with repaired relationship from Emotionally Focused Therapy

EFT helps you reimagine and repair healthy connections with the people you love.

What Can You Expect from EFT Treatment at Lukin Center? 

We take great care to match you with a highly trained therapist you can like, trust and collaborate with. You’ll start by talking with your therapist about the issues and roadblocks keeping you from having the relationship you want. 

Identify Negative Patterns

Once you’ve established a rapport with your therapist, they’ll observe your relationship dynamics and help you start uncovering the emotions and needs behind the negative patterns and cycles in your relationship. 

Explore Your Feelings

Next, your Lukin Center therapist will guide you through new conversations based on honest emotions. You and your partner will likely uncover feelings and needs you didn’t know you had. In therapy, you’ll have a safe space to be vulnerable and learn to see things from each other’s perspective, and you’ll explore how these emotions influence your patterns and cycles. 

Rewire the Connection

Your Lukin Center therapist will help you learn to use those emotions, needs, and fears as ways to connect instead of disconnect. You’ll create new pathways for listening and staying in tune with each other’s feelings, and map out healthy ways to address those old patterns and situations as they arise.

Want to see how EFT works? Watch this demonstration or this interview with Dr. Lukin.

Is EFT Right for You? 

EFT is most commonly used in couples therapy, and often adapted to address family and individual relationship issues as well. Your Lukin Center therapist might suggest EFT techniques to help you deal with:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Trauma
  • Strain caused by medical illness
  • Betrayal or Mistrust
  • Arguing
  • Lack of Intimacy
  • Family Stress
  • Life Transitions or Family Change
  • Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Family Issues (Emotionally Focused Family Therapy/ EFFT)
  • Individual Therapy (Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy/ EFIT)

You’re in Great Hands Here

As with all psychotherapy, the success of Emotionally Focused Therapy has a lot to do with the therapist. An effective EFT therapist is empathetic and validating. They help you feel comfortable, accepted, and safe so you (and your partner) can explore your true feelings and uncover the needs and emotions you might not know were even there. 

Lukin Center is one of the only centers in Northern New Jersey to offer Emotionally Focused Therapy options. Lukin Center therapists are specially trained in EFT and dedicated to ongoing training and education to make sure you get the best treatment experience possible. We’re proud to have several respected, experienced EFT therapists on staff.